To feel nostalgia is to feel absence from your side.
modafinil side effects п»їThe feeling of nostalgia is so common that, sometimes, we have the unconscious idea that it has to be there as something inherent to who we are. That's why everyone can identify with it: we live with the nostalgia of something on our backs, we walk with it, we dance with it and we caress it more when it rains. As if on sad days, when we see less of her, she lets herself be seen more.
"Nostalgia is loving a past that crushes us in the present. It is a delayed happiness. It is sleeping in a hammock and still remembering the fiery reconciliations after fights for unimportant reasons. To feel the lack of details. Nostalgia alone does not kill because it has the pleasure of torture."
-Gabito Nunes
We feel nostalgia for someone, for something, for a past that is not present and we wish it were. We can also feel nostalgia for the present that is not and was not. We are nostalgic for moments, for details, for caresses, for words..... In short, nostalgia is as real as we can be and that is why it touches us so deeply.
Sometimes nostalgia is so great that we are nostalgiaI read an article a few days ago in which the author said that our past is like a strange country from which we have been exiled and, then, like those who have suffered exile and are cold, sometimes we want to return and seek warmth. In this sense, figurative exile can be very distant, far away or almost simultaneous to your present.
I think all this is true: as long as nostalgia does not reach prolonged melancholy, wanting to return from time to time is one more way of knowing what we are from what we were. This does not mean that we do not want to live in the present or that we feel bad in it, but that we recognize ourselves and are aware of what we have lived.
"Sometimes nostalgia is so great that it is more than a feeling. People are nostalgic. It is to live to find in the gaze of a person in all improbable corners, to confuse hair, mouths, perfumes. To smile with the lips with the heart suffocated."
-Gabito Nunes
People are nostalgia, as the Portuguese writer says, because missing a tiny thing already makes them great. Because this tiny thing is absence and we need it with all our being. That is why we are nostalgia: because, as in love, we cannot feel nostalgia half-heartedly and it accompanies us in all our gestures.
The two faces of nostalgia
The truth is that nostalgia, like most things in life, has two faces. When we hear the word nostalgia we immediately understand that we are approaching something sad and sweet at the same time.
Missing your family, your friends or your partner for example is feeling momentarily unprotected; but, it is also an embrace when that lack is equivalent to knowing who we have and who we really want with us.
"To feel nostalgia is to radically change routine, to eat more salad and less sorbet. Nostalgia is the uncomfortable expectation of a reunion. It is imagining where I should be now. And when nostalgia does not fit in the chest, it materializes and transships through the eyes."
-Gabito Nunes
It is true that we tend to stay with the melancholic face of nostalgia and more when we are in seasons like autumn-winter, with which we identify it more. However, it is brave to understand that nostalgia is the absence of something that was or is worthwhile, that was or is beautiful, that made us or makes us happy.
And I say brave because if it is a permanent absence it is difficult to understand the need to see nostalgia as the price of the most beautiful things. Because nothing will ever make us nostalgic if it does not carry with it the certainty of a realized, probable or coexisting happiness.
And, on the other hand and above all, we must keep the face of nostalgia that fills us, that makes us part of the world and that shows us that we are really living it, in spite of its consequences...
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